Back to basics....
My many remakings are remarkable in their own way. Each, to varying degrees, includes body, mind, and spirit. Each requires being proactive, rather than reactive.
Running always provides the necessary rubric. Running enables me to: regroup; renew; rework; reorganize; remember; and reenergize.
Running is not static; it requires constant movement. So too do I. Running is my restorative.
Friday, August 12, 2016
Since my Mom's death, I certainly have been sad -- I lost the only constant of my 52 years. However, rather than focusing on what I lost, I am focusing on how lucky I have been.
My Mom's living situation provided many unexpected benefits. One of them is that we were able to focus on grieving when she died, rather than dealing with stuff. She owned so little at the end -- about 3 1/2 hours after her death, her stuff was packed up and we didn't have to return to the nursing home. That was the easiest and quickest move....
Not having to take time to deal with my Mom's stuff left time to focus on her funeral arrangements, and then to heal and figure out how to live without her. For a number of days following my Mom's burial, we contemplated the words to be added to the cemetery marker. Focusing on that was better than focusing on a bunch of stuff.
Don't get me wrong, it's not that my Mom didn't have tons of stuff. It's just that she had downsized twice already. More than 10 years ago, I helped her move from the 3 story house in which she had lived for about 80 years to a 4 room condominium. That process was quite a challenge, but we were prepared. The second downsizing came with the nursing home. There, she had a comfortable space with just a few select treasures.
A significant takeaway from my Mom's death is:
for your sake and the sake of the ones you will leave behind, everyone should consider living with less stuff. Doing so will produce benefits now and later.
Friday, August 5, 2016
Currently, I think that exercise will work well. Given that I am not very fit, activity will suffice for exercise to some extent. Running is not too cumbersome because even 30 minutes of running at a slow pace is significant. This week, I intend to meet all 3 goals of my activity circles in my Apple Watch. This is an attainable goal that will give me great satisfaction.
My days are so different and I will make the differences work for me, such that I will be a better Helen without the other Helen.
Wednesday, August 3, 2016
Saturday, August 1, 2015
Thursday, June 25, 2015
Tuesday, April 7, 2015
My Mom was never going to a long term care facility (okay, a nursing home, I said it) until she did, one year ago today. It was one of the most difficult decisions I ever made, but one of the best as it turns out. She is thriving.
My Son was never going to a catholic school until it was clear that one school in particular was a good fit for him. Now we are planning for next year.
I was never going to work regularly in an office again until it became clear that doing so would allow me to work smarter. I hired someone, and training her in the office was most effective. Also, I can time-block my days better by regularly going to the office. Don't get me wrong, this office work is not 5 days a week, but it is much more than I ever thought I would want.
Allowing life to take its natural course is a favorable approach. Follow the possibilities rather than fighting them.